How to Help Yourself and the World Through Loss and Grief
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Stress. Loss. Sadness. Anger. Fear. Nearly all of my conversations involve one or all of these feelings right now. The world is in turmoil, and many people’s worlds locally are too.
Energy is contagious. Go to a concert, playground, cancer ward, or cemetery to see proof. No matter our opinions, we’re immersed in the country’s and the world’s energy. We grapple with losses, near and far, causing most of us to also grieve.
Sadness, anger, emptiness, despair, disappointment, and hopelessness are all aspects of grief. It’s not only loss of life that induces grieving.
Nearly any sort of loss can cause grief. Losing a job, a relationship, an ability, a home, a pet, or even an election can all be grief-inducing.
Right now, world events are creating tsunamis of fear, outrage, and grief.
You likely don’t have the power to stop the crises that trouble you the most. It’s a mistake to immerse yourself in them. The endless negativity will create stress and fear inside of you, and prevent you from creating good and bringing positivity into the world.
This doesn’t help anything or anyone.
Instead, take positive action (donate money, say a prayer, write a letter, organize to help, protest, etc.) and then turn off the negative reports (the news) and do things to make the world, wherever you are, better.
LEARNING TO LIVE WITH GRIEF
Grief follows losses of every sort, and life is rife with loss. Before it’s over, we’ll lose everything in our material existence, including our physical form. (Spirit is untroubled by this. We all return home after our day of playing cops and robbers in God’s backyard. No soul is ever lost.)
While we’re here, it makes sense to learn how to manage and allow grief to transform us. We can come out of it more alive.
If you’ve been with me for a while, you’ve shared many of my grief experiences. Death, relationship endings, an empty nest, starting over, and more. You were a critical part of my healing. (I <3 YOU.)
Loss and Grief seem like two evils bent on our destruction. They’re actually far more positive. They’re clarifying guides to your greatest expression. If you let them, they’ll revitalize your life.
Loss and Grief help you:
- Learn what matters to you and what wastes your time.
- Know what to do more of and what to stop doing.
- Actively and presently appreciate and care for what you value.
- Discover your authentic self and what you really want.
- Identify who to be closer to and who to release.
- Find what needs your focus and attention.
- Know that you are more than all you face.
- Learn to accept and adapt to change.
- Reveal your strength and resilience.
- Learn to let go.
The opportunity is for your desires to become more refined and your time more valuable.
Healing from loss and grief brings wisdom and clarity, helping you let go of toxic people and experiences.
Give in and be open. Be patient, kind, and gentle with yourself. Trust this process and know you’ll make it through. When you do, take all that remains and channel it into living a better life and positively affecting what you value.
It might look like this:
- more actively communicating your love and affection
- changing your schedule/life to give you more time with those you love
- becoming politically active
- donating time/money to causes you support
- taking better care of your health
- devoting time every day to your most cherished dreams
- leaving negative/unhealthy situations
- no longer putting things off
- making difficult changes necessary to live the life you want to live
It is difficult, but it’s worth all the grief. Be generous with compassion for yourself. Take stock of all the losses you’ve lived through. Acknowledge the immense power within you. Breathe.
What will you do today to help yourself move through the challenges you’re enduring?
With gratitude,
Cynthia
Notes:
I pushed the course “RECLAIMING WHOLENESS,” back because of my daughter’s surgery. I’m focusing on it now. Get on the waitlist. You’ll get three meditations, and I’ll notify you when enrollment opens. Space is limited.
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