Have you ever lost someone before you’d told them how much you love them and what they mean to you ?
If you have, my heart is with you, it’s an unparalleled pain. I have, too. You can still tell them. You won’t receive the same response, but it still matters. If you think you’ll never heal, you will.
Whether you know this pain or not, today we have the opportunity and obligation to ensure that it never happens (again). Too often we sit in the comfort of our minds and tell ourselves how much we love the people in our lives; it’s safe, rejection free and comfortable. It is also isolating and limits intimacy.
I challenge you to be brave and to tell the people you love just what they mean to you. If you have differences, so what, you can still retain your position and views while loving boldly. If they don’t reciprocate, it doesn’t matter. Love that loves only when loved in return isn’t real love.
If you discover that you mistakenly believed someone felt a way they do not, that’s wonderful. Knowing the truth is better than living under delusions. If you have no one to tell, that’s a wake up call telling you to get out and start building a community.
As I always endeavor to, I walked my talk before I wrote this post. I was a little uncomfortable so I wrote to the people I love. I’m not the most pleased with that. I feel as though I need to tell them face to face too, but if email or a note is all you can muster, then go with that. Just get the message out . . . now. It’s never too early, but it can be too late.
Love directed this way is like magic; it transforms everything and everyone it touches.
Here’s to you being a great lover.
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This is really beautiful.work from home
This is really beautiful.work from home
I have actually, a couple times. As a man I do find it hard to sometimes swallow my pride and let go of things that have caused me pain so that I can say what needs to be said to those that need to hear it. As usual Cynthia your post is right on target, and i'm going to need to do some soul searching today. Damn! I was hoping for a nice comfortable day isolated within my own mind today!! LOL
I have actually, a couple times. As a man I do find it hard to sometimes swallow my pride and let go of things that have caused me pain so that I can say what needs to be said to those that need to hear it. As usual Cynthia your post is right on target, and i'm going to need to do some soul searching today. Damn! I was hoping for a nice comfortable day isolated within my own mind today!! LOL
Thank you for sharing us such wonderful statement. I agree that we have to tell the people we love how much we care for them because it is not love until it is expressed. Maybe in words or in actions.
Thank you for sharing us such wonderful statement. I agree that we have to tell the people we love how much we care for them because it is not love until it is expressed. Maybe in words or in actions.
Cynthia, I believe when one has gone through losing one loved one after another, one will find the importance of telling/ showing their love to their loved ones who are still living.We hear it all the time not to wait until it is too late and regret it for the rest of our life. Hence, like you, I too walk my talk and express my affection. Why hide it, right?
Cynthia, I believe when one has gone through losing one loved one after another, one will find the importance of telling/ showing their love to their loved ones who are still living.We hear it all the time not to wait until it is too late and regret it for the rest of our life. Hence, like you, I too walk my talk and express my affection. Why hide it, right?
Stela, Hello and thank you.Cynthia
Stela, Hello and thank you.Cynthia
Nathan:You made me smile. I know its not always easy, but it's exciting, wonderful and life changing. Sorry to intrude on your comfort :)Cynthia
Dear Shorter:Very good point. Cynthia
Dear Shorter:Very good point. Cynthia
Hello LionGirl:Exactly. You're a bold soul.Cynthia
Hello LionGirl:Exactly. You're a bold soul.Cynthia
This is beautiful and I feel the exact same way. Faith is a beautiful thing to have and takes us to extreme lengths in our journeys <3
This is beautiful and I feel the exact same way. Faith is a beautiful thing to have and takes us to extreme lengths in our journeys <3
livelovespeakThanks for chiming in.Much love to you,Cynthia
livelovespeakThanks for chiming in.Much love to you,Cynthia
It's a difficult post to read, not because Cynthia has written words that aren't easy to understand. When the truth hits so close to home, and a light is shone on our greatest fears, I, like so many others, want to turn away. I wan't to turn away from these powerful words, and not read them, for fear that I may not do the very thing Cynthia so clearly warns me about.Despite knowing the immense pain I may cause myself, and the poignant truth contained herein, a voice says, "Tony, this isn't your life, this won't happen to you. Yet a quieter voice, quickly jumps in and says "you know you aren't exempt." Faster still, a voice answers, "I'm scared, it means facing the reality of death right in the face" The all powerful voice of reason, so certain, so confident, takes charge and says "do it later. You're busy. There's time. You have more important things to do." Another voice screams, though barely makes a sound. "Really, Tony? More important things?" I know the answer. I pretend not to hear. I continue doing "these more important things." Pushing the thought "that that later may never come" as deep within my mind as I can.
It's a difficult post to read, not because Cynthia has written words that aren't easy to understand. When the truth hits so close to home, and a light is shone on our greatest fears, I, like so many others, want to turn away. I wan't to turn away from these powerful words, and not read them, for fear that I may not do the very thing Cynthia so clearly warns me about.Despite knowing the immense pain I may cause myself, and the poignant truth contained herein, a voice says, "Tony, this isn't your life, this won't happen to you. Yet a quieter voice, quickly jumps in and says "you know you aren't exempt." Faster still, a voice answers, "I'm scared, it means facing the reality of death right in the face" The all powerful voice of reason, so certain, so confident, takes charge and says "do it later. You're busy. There's time. You have more important things to do." Another voice screams, though barely makes a sound. "Really, Tony? More important things?" I know the answer. I pretend not to hear. I continue doing "these more important things." Pushing the thought "that that later may never come" as deep within my mind as I can.
thank's for the sharing.very good…
thank's for the sharing.very good…
Tony:You express yourself so beautifully. The inner conversation you are having comes from fear of loss, but I offer you another way of looking at it. Expressing your feelings toward those you love enriches the NOW. Loss need be no more than an event you know is possible, it might happen, but the NOW? It's happening at all time. Take this opportunity to turn the volume of love in your NOW way up.Thank you for being so open. <3Cynthia
Tony:You express yourself so beautifully. The inner conversation you are having comes from fear of loss, but I offer you another way of looking at it. Expressing your feelings toward those you love enriches the NOW. Loss need be no more than an event you know is possible, it might happen, but the NOW? It's happening at all time. Take this opportunity to turn the volume of love in your NOW way up.Thank you for being so open. <3Cynthia
Cynthia,Thank you for your insight and sharing this different way of viewing loss and the various characters within :)What you said is deep and powerful advice. "Take THIS OPPORTUNITY to turn the volume of love in your NOW way up" + "expressing your feelings …..enriches the NOW. "I'm confused about the following:"Loss need to be no more than an event you know is possible. It's happening all the time."I feel like there's some deeper meaning in this that I don't necessarily get. . Some losses are going to occur. It's comforting to know they are a possible event, though it seems like a band aid to fear. Is there a particular way that you are that you don't even need the "band aid?"
Cynthia,Thank you for your insight and sharing this different way of viewing loss and the various characters within :)What you said is deep and powerful advice. "Take THIS OPPORTUNITY to turn the volume of love in your NOW way up" + "expressing your feelings …..enriches the NOW. "I'm confused about the following:"Loss need to be no more than an event you know is possible. It's happening all the time."I feel like there's some deeper meaning in this that I don't necessarily get. . Some losses are going to occur. It's comforting to know they are a possible event, though it seems like a band aid to fear. Is there a particular way that you are that you don't even need the "band aid?"
Hi Tony:Your re-quote is a little off. I wrote,"Loss need be no more than an event you know is possible, it might happen, but the NOW? It's happening at all time."What I meant is the NOW is a sure thing; it's here right now and you have it. The loss is only a possibility. We mustn't dwell on it unless or until it occurs.We have no way of knowing what will happen. You may leave this life before anyone else, you and the people you care about may leave it together and yes, someone may leave it before you.Dwelling on the potential for loss is like paying interest on money you haven't borrowed. The ways I cope with my fears of loss are (mind you these are purely my personal beliefs):1) I don't borrow crisis. (Described above)2) I know that energy is never extinguished, it simply changes form. I do not believe in death.3) I am not afraid of "death". I feel deeply connected to a higher power and I trust in the rightness of all things (when viewed from a high enough altitude).4) I know that, should a loss occur, I will survive and find peace again. I learned this by living it.5) I attempt to max out my loving so that I have no regrets.6) I know that loss is not goodbye; it is farewell for now.This has to be enough for me. I'm still human and it isn't perfect, but it helps.Tell me how this strikes you.<3Cynthia
Hi Tony:Your re-quote is a little off. I wrote,"Loss need be no more than an event you know is possible, it might happen, but the NOW? It's happening at all time."What I meant is the NOW is a sure thing; it's here right now and you have it. The loss is only a possibility. We mustn't dwell on it unless or until it occurs.We have no way of knowing what will happen. You may leave this life before anyone else, you and the people you care about may leave it together and yes, someone may leave it before you.Dwelling on the potential for loss is like paying interest on money you haven't borrowed. The ways I cope with my fears of loss are (mind you these are purely my personal beliefs):1) I don't borrow crisis. (Described above)2) I know that energy is never extinguished, it simply changes form. I do not believe in death.3) I am not afraid of "death". I feel deeply connected to a higher power and I trust in the rightness of all things (when viewed from a high enough altitude).4) I know that, should a loss occur, I will survive and find peace again. I learned this by living it.5) I attempt to max out my loving so that I have no regrets.6) I know that loss is not goodbye; it is farewell for now.This has to be enough for me. I'm still human and it isn't perfect, but it helps.Tell me how this strikes you.<3Cynthia
I believe it strikes at the heart, where it needs to be. In the now, knowing that "loss is not goodbye; it is farewell for now."Thank you for clarifying what I misread. it makes, all the difference in the world. You have such dazzling gifts. Each a nugget of life changing wisdom. Thank you for sharing your love with us.Tony
I believe it strikes at the heart, where it needs to be. In the now, knowing that "loss is not goodbye; it is farewell for now."Thank you for clarifying what I misread. it makes, all the difference in the world. You have such dazzling gifts. Each a nugget of life changing wisdom. Thank you for sharing your love with us.Tony
Beautiful and inspiring, as always! Thanks, Cynthia!