Reclaiming Womanhood, part two
After part one, I’ll bet you expected this entry would contain a healthy dose of male bashing. It doesn’t. If it did that would mean that men have the ultimate power over our priorities and behaviors. They aren’t.
We are responsible for making time to express all of the exquisite things that bring us joy. I can hear the protests of “I don’t have time” or “If I do that I’ll let _________ down.” Yet I know for sure that if a child, spouse or another person important to you needed you to rearrange your life to help them through a difficult event, you’d find the time.
The fundamental problem is that we do not give our joy, creativity, true beauty and soul restoring relaxation any real value. They afterthoughts that we may be lucky enough to experience someday.
In truth, we must tend to our inner gardens if we wish to have fruits and flowers to give away. If we give ourselves away without making time to care for the woman inside, the day will come when we realize that we’ve spent our lives revolving around others and we have no identity outside of those people.The search for oneself from this starting point is painstaking.
Modern women have proven their power and ability to do it all. Our next challenge is to use that same power toward the goal of having daily moments (or hours) devoted to pursuing our bliss.
How to Start Making Space for Yourself
You may have to ask for help to get the dishes, dinner, driving, tutoring, bathing or whatever else done. That is a good thing.There is no prize for being an island. If you feel any guilt or resistance to asking for help, that is a sign that you need the help the most. You wouldn’t feel guilty making the request for someone you loved, would you? Self help books abound with the command to love thyself. Your self love is demonstrated by what you do, not how many times you think it or say it.
You wouldn’t feel guilty making the request for someone you loved, would you? Self-help books abound with the command to love thyself. Your self-love is demonstrated by what you do, not just how many times you think it or say it.
Love loves. Love you first.
UPDATE – 4/16/17 – These were the whispers that inspired my to write Resurrecting Venus. All these years later, I’m pleased to have recognized the value and significance of our deepest needs and desires. It’s made life so much richer.