We cannot obtain what we lack if we tenaciously cling to what we have.
–Charles F. Haanel
I posted the above quote on my Facebook Page. In response, I received emails and comments requesting clarification of its meaning.
This quote is about release and surrender. Many view this negatively, as though letting go signifies defeat, failure, loss, poverty or disappointment. It doesn’t. The release and surrender of an outcome, desire, belief, relationship or thing to, and for, the Highest Good is always an improvement.
Often, by clinging to what we have we delay or prevent the emergence of what we really need, deserve or are intended to have. We must give to receive.
Here are some examples:
You’re in the wrong relationship, but you’re clinging so tightly to the belief that there are no good men out there (or you’re too old, fat, uneducated, worthless etc. to attract one if there is, or you’ll never make it on your own). These are beliefs not truths; there are people out there, just like you, who are building healthy, happy relationships today. There are countless others who, finally in their aloneness, are able to live out their dreams. Your tightly grasped beliefs are preventing your good from coming to you. Give up the negative belief to receive a positive outcome.
You want to sing, dance, act or speak publicly, but you’re too shy. For as long as you cling to a belief in shyness as a part of YOU, you will not fulfill your dream. You are not shy. Shyness exists within you and your past. You can let go, you can choose to take small consistent steps toward building stage presence and confidence. Trade shyness for radiance.
You want to live a big life and create real change, but you’re afraid to take strides toward your dreams, to risk failure and rejection. You’re clinging to your small life to avoid pain. You cannot stand in achievement or magnificence and stay in the comfort of littleness or the delusion of unworthiness too. Man up (you too, ladies) and give your littleness away.
You want to be wealthy and easily afford your life, but you think rich people are jerks. Your unconscious will sabotage every opportunity for wealth. Money is a neutral energy and there are plenty of poor jerks out there. Exchange the belief that poor equals goodness for the belief that wealth enables massive giving.
You want to feel feminine and beautiful, but your mother taught you that women who express their inherent charms diminish womankind. Release that backwards programming and decide that your beauty is a sacred gift from your Creator.
What you have is good, but you crave something better. This desire stays with you, outlasting compulsive wanting and egoic showmanship; it rests at your core, triggering thoughts of purpose, destiny and calling, but you remain in the safety and comfort of normalcy. You must release what is good so what is best can manifest.
You’re working on a project and you’ve done all you possibly can and now the outcome is in someone else’s hands. Let go of worry, anxiety and frenetic mental machinations. Surrender it to the power that beats your heart and turns the planets, surely it can handle your concerns. If the outcome doesn’t go the way your mind/ego desire, trust that it is for your highest good. Something is seeking to emerge. Whether it be a skill, attribute, strength or better opportunity, all things, ultimately, work together for good.
Everything has gone wrong, ruin is the order of the day. You’re trying to salvage, repair or reconstruct a war-zone. Let go. Begin again. Release your grasp on yesterday’s dream. Invest in you, today. Create your very best self now. What is yours will remain and what you need will come. Trust that a power greater than you is on the scene. Give your best today and let Her do the rest.
To shed light on Charles Haanel’s intention behind his quote, I leave you with another:
Growth is attained through an exchange of the old for the new, of the good for the better; it is a conditional or reciprocal action, for each of us is a complete thought entity and this completeness makes it possible for us to receive only as we give. –Charles F. Haanel
Do you see how clinging to what is can block your good from reaching you? Leave me a comment and share one thing you’re choosing to release. I read all comments.