People interpret life’s difficult events in much the same way.
A friend gets fired, a marriage falls apart, an opportunity falls through and we feel sympathetic. When these events happen in our own lives, we often follow our conditioned reactions and view the event as negative, allowing it to change how we see ourselves and the world.
The event itself is inherently neither bad nor good. It is neutral until we, the observer, define it. Have you ever experienced a “bad” event, but later looked back and recognized that had it not occurred, something wonderful wouldn’t have come to be?
Often new and better places in life emerge through seeming chaos. We must ask, “What is seeking to emerge?” Then trust the birth process. Many of the best relationships and experiences of my life were born of events I viewed as “bad”.
We can ease negative feelings by consciously choosing to believe that the event is a precursor to something better. This choice will help us regain balance and hope. It also primes us to notice people and things that may lead us to a better place sooner.
If our mind is stuffed with storm clouds of despair, we won’t readily recognize the good that may be a direct result of a “bad” event. Taking an active role in deciding how we interpret life’s challenges is vital to our well being.
Losing my job is the worst thing that could happen to me.
Losing that job opens the way for a better job or business for me.
My marriage is over and my life is ruined.
This is a new time in my life and I can be happy again.
I didn’t get the ___________ I wanted.
I know the right opportunity exists for me and I’ll discover it.
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. – Wayne Dyer